Leading on empty: refilling your tank and renewing your passion - Wayne Cordeiro

 

Lovely book that I am reading in this moment of my life, when I feel down and empty. I am not able to pick up myself from the disappointments and from the sadness that I am feeling. 

This is the closest I have been to be depressed,  but in the real sense of the word. I had days in which I just did not have the energy or willingness to stand up and do my job, or meet people. 

Upon recommendation, I started reading this book, and I found some key things that I could immediately implement, and not only implement, but get more conscious about them, and realize the importance of them once again.

There are seven lessons that are hard to learn, and I ll add them here, as a reminder for me first, and then for other people who are in need:

1. Do not exaggerate

When the clock is saying that my time ended, i will say : Come back tomorrow, then I ll have more for you. 

We should simply stop, when the day is over, and when we have done our part for the day. We should prioritize ourselves, and for the sake of those who are asking, we should just invite them to come back tomorrow. 

2. Manage your energy wisely 

The best asset of a leader is not necessary time. It is energy. A person with energy can achieve more in 4 hours than another person in 4 days. 

I need to invest my energy better, with more awareness. 

Number 1: connect with God daily 

Number 2: prepare the work activity, if you have one

Number 3,4,5: you decide what needs to be: growth, friends, worship etc

Number 6: family 

Number 7: ME - we should always have a reserve of energy just for us 

3. Rest 

We are most vulnerable to being depressed when we are tired and overwhelmed with everything. 

In life you do not need to be always on the run. 

The rest needs to be the main responsibility we have. Rest restores the rhythm of life and enables us to sustain life. 

A good sleep - when do you start your day? Your day starts when you go to sleep in the previous day. Your day starts with the rest you get over the night. Go to bed before midnight. 

4. Physical exercises

If you are depressed start with some physical activity. 

It is proven that exercising have positive effects: 

- reduces stress, anxiety and depression

- grows self esteem

- brings a positive state of mind

- brings a positive perspective over life

- helps with better sleep 

Start with a little but start NOW: 

 Exercises also have other benefits for your health:

- make the heart stronger

- helps the body to make better use of oxygen

- grows the energy level

- decreases the blood pressure

- helps to reduce the fats in the body 

- makes you feel in shape , healthy and happier with yourself 

Some tips on how to start this routine:

- start with little

- more short sessions

- do something you enjoy

- have activity along with friends

- include this activity in your daily activity plan

5. Eat for a better life

- eat food that has a big quantity of nutrients

- fill your plate with delicious antioxidants : apricots, broccoli, yellow melon, carrots, cabbage, peaches, spinach, sweet potatoes, nuts etc 

- eat foods that are rich in proteins 

6. Re charge daily 

- clean water - Jesus

- a new start, every morning

7. Fight for your family 

- Fight for your families. If you will fail on building your home, you will not have where to go when your ministry is over. 

Happy … and 38th

 Today is a new day! And i am choosing Happy!!! It is amazing how people can change my mood. I was deep under ground, and in some areas I still am, but to be honest, I have seen that there are people that really care for me, and this is always nice. 

I had a lovely birthday, full of surprises from people that I did not expect to make a fuss about this day.

I also had small disappointments around people where I expected a bit more, but that is ok. 

The picture do not describe the feelings I had inside, joy, surprise, happiness. I felt love. 

This is how the Father from Heaven is taking care of us, even when we are so down, and not knowing where to go and what to do. 

I am blessed and surrounded by great friends and great family! 

I want to have a year, where I can appreciate that more and more. 

Wisdom....is needed! Welcome 38th :P.

Happy happy birthday!!!

 This year I want to be the first one who is wishing Happy Birthday to me!

And it seems like I did it!!

This year was an interesting one, full of learnings and ideas, and a new year is starting so let’s see what will bring.

I want to be wiser, smarter and more accomplished in things that matter. I want to improve my relationships with my friends and my family.

I want to explore fashion more and spoil myself with doing things that I usually stopped doing, like park walks or drinks in the city etc. 

I want to smile more and allow myself to be out there without fearing rejection so much! I want to explore the world and be more selfish.

I want to meet new people and meet the one my heart is awaiting for. I want to surround myself with kids more and more, i want to just be there among them.

I want to reconnect with God, and be closer to Him! I want to celebrate life and cherish it.

I want to grow spiritually and understand His will better!

I want to be healthy and in a better shape! So that i can take care of those I love!

I want to love and be loved!

A long list of things i think about… I want to have them here so that i can reflect on them every day when i want to.

Celebrating another year of life! With You! 

Almost there....but disappointed

 The past weeks were very intense for me, and it feels like I can not recover and get back in shape. 

I feel many emotions and I am all over the place. It is like I just react to different things without a proper evaluation, and just jumping in with all the emotions that I was not aware I could have. 

I wish I was able to do what I want more often than I actually am. I miss the days of freedom that I used to have when living in Bucharest or in Lublin or anywhere else as a matter a fact.

I like living with more people, but I am like overwhelmed and tired of all the issues and the requests, I feel like I am a full time mum, with a challenging job, and without having any maternity time. 

I wish I was calmer, and I would show more empathy, but the reality is I do not want to. I want to ...actually be wild and stop pleasing others. 

I please everyone, and this needs to stop somehow. 

I am almost there, the bridge of another year adding to my life here on Earth, and I do not have a decent explanation for the anger I feel inside, I am not proud of it , at all. 

I hope I can calm myself and be focused on my deliverables for work and for the household. 

Sadness is wrapping me around. 

I need to find a way...to come back.